Perhaps it’s in the Pauses

It’s Halloween, and just in case you’re wondering, in 62 days, thereabouts, it will be New Year’s, 2018.  Where has this year gone? A few months ago it was New Year’s 2017. I know it was.  How could this year be nearing its end?

That brings to mind a thought that makes me a little uncomfortable.  What have I done with this year? What did I accomplish or what did I enjoy?  What did I do with the time that has been allotted to me?  Did I enjoy it, or did I squander it away?

When we were children time crawled by.  It was forever between Christmas and birthdays. Looking back now through adult eyes, it seems like mega seconds between Christmas, and birthdays.  Now, the birthdays seem to come way too quickly and with the birthdays come aging, getting older, more aches and pains. But, with the aging comes wisdom, I hope.

As I look back over the year it’s as though Father Time had a jet pack on as the days and nights whisked by.  Some of the time I was merely a spectator, watching life from the sidelines as it rapidly moved ahead. Sometimes, I was a participant, caught up in the busyness of everyday affairs as my life swiftly moved forward, toward the finish line.

Perhaps, it would be wise for me to pause for a while and think on the things I have accomplished this year.  I took the time to listen to a small child explain the wonders of a stunning ladybug that had crawled out of a flower and landed on his sweet hand as his beautiful blue eyes looked at it in wonder.

I watched as an elderly person sat down on a park bench with guarded movement so as not to suddenly plop down and lose their balance. Then when seated, they looked at the wondrous beauty of the world around them with thanksgiving.

I looked into the eyes of my dog and I saw what loyalty and love looks like.  I heard a bird singing to the top of its voice, a melody so beautiful that a symphony orchestra could not compete.

I saw young lovers holding hands as they walked through the park, whispering words of adoration as they look forward to their future with eagerness.

I saw old lovers holding hands as they slowly walked together.  Wrinkled faces, bent bodies, but still so much in love that it made me want to cry.  

I pray I showed hospitality to strangers because the bible tells us sometimes, when we do that, we entertain angels unaware. These things were some of my accomplishments.

Perhaps, that is what time is about.  Not so much the movements of the fast pace we live, but in the pauses.  The times we realize we just need to stop for a moment and appreciate the things that make this life important.

It’s time to enjoy the smell of rain, the beauty of the flowers and to have the eagerness of a child’s bewilderment as we see something for the first time.  Perhaps it’s the face of a new child, a new grandchild or the blessedness of being allowed to see our great grandchildren.  To remember, not everyone is allowed that privilege.

It’s time to pause and appreciate this life God gives us by acknowledging the blessings He sends us daily, sometimes hourly.  We need to pause, to mediate, to say, ‘Thank you Lord.’

Perhaps, it’s in the pauses we learn to appreciate time; perhaps in the pauses we slow down and learn how to live. 


How to Handle Sexual Harassment

wp-image--497650345I may get hate mail over this one, but that’s okay.

I, for one, am sick and tired of hearing, “Well, he grabbed me and groped me and acted very irresponsible, etc. etc. etc.” 

My question to all women who have had this problem or who will have this problem or who think they have this problem, “What did you do about it?”  

Not fifteen years later coming forward and saying ‘well, yes, he did that to me.’  Or ‘I was just too traumatized to say anything,’ or ‘I was afraid no one would believe me.’

Oh, really?  Well, I’ve been a female a long, long time.  Grew up with a boy’s name, worked in the market place for many years, and even as a young woman had to handle old men’s groping hands.  Now, let me tell you how a Texas girl handles these situations.

First of all you scream, “What are you doing? Keep your hands to yourself old man or you’re not going to be able to walk for a few days.”  

Followed by a swift knee kick to the parts he holds near and dear and then you tell everyone you meet what a nasty old man he is, regardless of whose grandfather it is.

That’s for the old men who don’t have enough sense to know they couldn’t handle it if they captured it. Then you ask them, “Hey, does your granddaughter know you go around groping her friends?”  “No, well guess what, the whole town’s going to know it because I’m reporting your sorry self.  Don’t ever attempt to touch me or any of my friends again.”

Now, if you’ve survived the high school sexual abusers and held your own, then you come face to face with the whole wide world of harassment from the work place.  You handle it the same way you did in high school.  You yell and scream and tell everyone you meet what’s going on.  

I’ve found on my life’s journey, nothing was worth, or ever will be worth, me having to keep quiet about these sick people. Report them immediately. Have the courage to say, ‘not today Lucy, not today.’

That’s what they count on.  

They count on you being too scared or embarrassed to report them.  Not year’s later, but right now, right when it happens. They count on you wanting to obtain an acting career, a job promotion, a leg up on the ladder of success. Some even tolerate it just to be popular. That kind of reaction makes you as sick as they are. Yep that’s what I said.  If you let anyone get by treating you with such disrespect and not reporting it, you’re as sick as they are.

Now, before you hang me out with the laundry, think on this.  If you have been forewarned about these things that can, and probably will happen to you, then you can be prepared to fight back.

Satan loves the darkness.  He likes to hide in the shadows and make you afraid.  He counts on it. But, he cannot stand in the light.  Once the light shines on him, he’s like a mythical vampire; he melts and runs away, the coward.  Those that serve him count on our fears to hold us captive.

Teach your daughters and sons how to fight back.  Yes, the same thing works for boys as it does for girls.  Teach them it’s okay to tell you any and all things without fear of reprobation for telling the truth. Teach them first and foremost how to handle themselves and what to do should a priest, an old man or woman or anyone that tries to touch them inappropriately, or speak nasty offensive words, even those that they think love them, might do.

Once they are armed, it makes the fight so much easier.

In closing I have to say, I never met a man or woman, I couldn’t get rid of if I wanted to badly enough. It just takes courage and the ability to stand up for what you know is right.

Lastly, the one rule I always follow and have my entire life is very, very simple;

“Follow the money.”  It will always take you to where the truth lies.  If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it most likely is a duck, regardless of what you want to believe.

Shine a light on it.  

Speak up, tell someone, anyone.  

Don’t let predators of any kind survive in our country.  

You Cannot Legislate Morality

Gun laws passed, new laws made, gun control legislated. None of these things will work because you cannot legislate morality. 

Unfortunately, evil will find a way.

Cain killed Abel with a rock.

Morality has to be taught and learned. The saying, “when the student is ready the teacher will appear,” is so true. God teaches about morality. He tells humankind exactly what they should or shouldn’t do. Alas, humankind ignores God and all things they do not want to adhere to. In its place comes, what some call reasoning.

What it really is, is an excuse. Excuses for bad behavior in children and adults, excuses for greed, excuses for hard hearts, excuses for lust, excuses for killing, excuses for lies, excuses for stealing, excuses for laziness, excuses for selfishness, excuses for anything we don’t want to do. For every good deed there is an excuse not to do it.

So, don’t blame our leaders and expect them to fix this mess we have. Yes, part of it they have brought on, but the other part we brought on. “Not me”, you say, “I have nothing to do with this mess that’s happening in our world.”

Really? When was the last time you prayed for our leaders? When was the last time you took the time to help someone; someone that you knew could never repay you. When was the last time you said, “Search my heart, oh God and show me where I’m wrong and I will get right.”

The respect we should have for our elders, our leaders, our law enforcement, our next door neighbor, the mentally ill, what’s happened to that respect? What’s happened to our morality? When and where did we lose it? When did we stop caring for anyone except our self?

Perhaps, when we put God back in the classroom, back in the courtroom, back in the lives of everyday normal living, perhaps then and only then will our questions about what’s happening in our world, be answered.

Mental Illness vs Evil

In a world where 20% of the population, will be diagnosed with mental illiness, before their 14th birthday, we are still shocked when it manifests itself.  Yet evilness, which also manifests itself, often goes by with just, ‘oh, you know how they are,’ excuse.

The latest incident in Las Vegas, Nevada were a man in his sixties fired on helpless American citizens as they enjoyed a night of country music, was both horrific and very, very sad. I think in his instance, he either had an undiagnosed medical condition or he is the face of sheer evil.  An autopsy should tell us which.

Prior to this appalling event, many countries around the world have suffered the same.  Paris, England, Germany, and many other well-known places have experienced the same amount of horrendous terror.  Some committed by terrorist and some not.  

Unfortunately, far too many, have been committed by every day citizens of the human race.  Yet, they all contain one element of sameness.  Mental illness and/or evilness is involved. No man, woman or child would walk into a place and start shooting just for the thrill of killing unless they have a mental problem or are so filled with hate they commit such crimes.

This goes back thru the ages.  In ancient history there was Atilla the Hun. In more modern history, Adolph Hitler. Some are no as well known; Luis Goravito, believed to have killed over 300, but because of Columbian law was only given 30 years and with good behavior can get out earlier. Ted Bundy, said to be the ‘very definition of evil,’ admitted to killing 36, but experts believe he may have killed as many as 100. Ahmad Suradji of Indonesian admitted killing 42 girls, killed by firing squad in 2008.  Andri Chikatilo of Russia killed over 53 and said of himself, “I know I have to be destroyed.  I was a mistake of Nature.”  And the list goes on, so many that time and space does not permit naming.

So, as proven by the above, we know that mental illness and evilness are not a new thing.  Down thru the ages many, many have joined the ranks of insane ‘killers,” most likely more evil than insane.

What man or woman with good sense would strap a bomb to them self and think they would kill themselves and others and gain a place in Heaven?  That thinking is insanity at its highest, yet we read about it all too often. Yet is it indeed insanity or is it pure evil, played out by the devil himself?

The question then becomes, what can we do to help with the epidemic of mental illness and/or evilness? Most importantly, what is its cause?

Perhaps some think the stigma of having or knowing someone with a mental illness is too embarrassing to address. Some may think that’s someone else’s problem, other’s nothing I can do etc.  

But, the other side is how much is pure evil? Evil can be punished. That, we can do something about if we have the courage to enforce.

In history we find that the insane were often locked away in a place where they were not only mistreated but were used as guinea pigs to further the study of medicine.  Some were helped, but many were not. The problem persists and still with no collective answer.

The question remains, ‘how much is insanity and how much is pure evilness?’

Some will say ‘if we had no guns this could not happen.’  The truth is the guns don’t kill people, people kill people. It can just as easily be knives, or rocks or alcohol or drugs, so what is the solution?

I don’t know. I wish I did.  I know we have to support the causes that try and treat mental illness. And, we must always fight evil wherever we find it.   We must recognize there is a problem and try our best to at least solve a part of it. Again, however, evilness can and should be punished.

In my humble opinion too much time is given these killers. That brings about copycat killers. It’s hard to even imagine that someone would think killing hundreds of people was somehow to be admired, but that to many, is a drawing card. The attention, the fifteen minutes of fame they receive becomes a face of mental illness and evilness.  So what do we do?

We once again, must follow the money.  We have to make it where help is given when need is seen. We have to educate, educate, that mental illness is not a stigma, but is a disease that can be helped, though perhaps not cured.  

We must recognize and educate when we know it’s evilness.  So filled with hate they just spew it on everyone they come in contact with.

We have to take all threats of harm against our leaders as forms of mental illness and/or evilness.  Arrest those that do such things, and if indeed they are found to have mental illness, find treatment for them.

But, if it’s just evilness then confine them; find them, prosecute them and finally put them away if it can’t be controlled.  We can no longer take these threats as just ‘blowing of steam.’

Just as we unite against tyranny and abuse we must unite in the effort to find help for the mentally ill. The first step in doing that is to recognize mental illness when it appears and try and treat it, not deny that it exists.

By the same token, we have to recognize evil when we see it and take steps to stop that.  I am of the opinion; the two go hand in hand.  If you are stupid enough to spew your hated over all mankind, then you do indeed have a mental problem.  Unfortunately your problem can’t be treated, and usually the best solution for evilness is a very strong fine, so high that it hurts. Along with spending time put away in a jail cell.

Taking away the gun is not the answer. Recognizing mental illness and finding treatment is.  

Evilness has to pay right along with the rest of the criminals. Of course most of these pansy asses, once they realize this is going to cost them big bucks would like to plead insanity in order to escape punishment.  In their cases, the cost needs to double.

To Ms. Hayley Goftman-Gold, apparently a woman of education, as up until yesterday, she worked in CBS’s legal department, shame on you.  Shame on you for saying you,’ have no sympathy for those attending a Country Concert because most of them are usually Republicans and deserve to be punished.’  

I say to you, “No, idiot, they are your fellow Americans just out trying to have a good time when evil popped up its ugly head and destroyed so many of their lives. Now, I hope you get to have a little punishment for your words. Perhaps, then, though not guaranteed, you will think before you speak and more importantly, examine your heart.”

You are the prime example of a degree guarantees nothing, but the ability to learn.

In your case madam,  I am going to say you are both evil and insane and needed to be fired, and should fined and the world would be a better place if you were put away for a very long time.