I’m no good at holding my ‘forever peace.’ Not now and, never have been. But, in honesty, I think there needs to be a whole lot more people willing to speak out when they see things going on, that perhaps shouldn’t be happening.
Recently, I was exposed to a situation that certainly needed to be addressed. And then, the thought occurred to me, ‘this happens all the time and few speak up.’
A good friend was admitted to the hospital and while there suffered a heart attack, kidney failure, and pneumonia. Anyone of these things could, and has, killed lots of people. In addition to these malady’s he also experienced sepsis. Was the sepsis a result of the illness he already had, or was it present because of the illness he had acquired since his admission to the hospital? That may never be known.
My rant today, however has to do with another malady that occurs all to frequently when taking care of loved ones. This malady has a cure and should never occur, but it does, that’s where the ‘speak now, or forever hold your peace, comes in to play.
Most doctors and nurses are very dedicated humans. You will notice I used the term, ‘humans.’ Not Gods, or Generals, but humans. Therefore, they are approachable, and should be ready to give reasons as to why they are doing certain things as they treat our loved ones. They shouldn’t feel as though they are being attacked just because you question their reasoning.
However, unfortunately, not all doctors and nurses are that way. Some think because they tell you a certain thing and give you their opinion you should never question their decision.
Look, I even ask God, ‘why,’ so I’m certainly going to ask a fellow human being ‘why?’
This certain doctor pooh poohed concerns the family had about different treatments and finally said, “Because I am the doctor and I said so.”
Oh, really? Well, apparently you were absent the day medical school taught bedside manners. Apparently, you were never told that the family knows this patient better than you ever will, and apparently the doctor’s degree you obtained in the Cayman Islands needs a lot of work.
Out of spite, for it was for no other reason, he ordered a sedative given that knocked the patient out for four days. The family felt it was because he was determined to show the family he was in charge. Shame on you lowly human. Shame on you.
This patient was also on dialysis, every other day. So, since the body couldn’t dump the sedative until he had dialysis, his recovery from the sedative took much, much longer.
Don’t be afraid to ask anybody, any question, at any time. Especially, if the loved one can’t speak for themselves. Don’t be held captive by the fear that if you speak up your loved one will suffer the consequences. That’s what they hope and think you will do. Take your phone in with you and make pictures and make recordings.
Let them know that’s what your doing. You’d be surprised how quickly all that can change when they know you have proof they have acted out of line.
If per chance, you hear the excuse, “I’ll get there in a minute, I’ve work twelve hours already.”
Really, then find another job, or do this job as you should. No excuses, no complaints, do your job or quit.
There are reasons that institutions and medical personnel, have to be licensed. They aren’t Gods, they aren’t Generals, they first and foremost are human, just like you and me. If they violate the rules, they get canned, pure and simple. Their license can be revoked.
So, the next time you feel like your loved one is not being treated as they should by those in charge of their wellbeing, ‘speak up.’ Don’t be afraid of the consequences, if they mistreat they will have to endure the penalty of their actions.
Any doctor or nurse worth their salt, well understands the concerns the family has for their loved one. If not, then they need to get out of the medical field. Don’t ever be afraid to say what you feel, if you see and hear things you know are not as they should be.
There is only one God and He’s in heaven.
That recalls the old adage, “I’d like to buy them for what they are worth and sell ‘um for what they think their worth.”
Or, “If the shoe fits, wear it.”